It's Christmas Day and your entire family has come over for dinner. It's been months since you've seen your cousins, aunts, uncles and grandparents. Drinks are flowing, music is blasting and everyone seems to be having a good time. And then, your aunt catches you in the kitchen as you've gone back for a second piece of pie and says, "Do you REALLY need that dear?" As she points to your stomach.
Your cousins have been teasing you all night about still living in a studio apartment with a roommate and your vintage(aka OLD) set of wheels. Your grandma keeps asking you when you are gonna find yourself a solid career and a serious boyfriend because "you're not getting ANY younger." And when you seek refuge with your friends, they ever-so-passively shade you as well.
I know, being around your family and friends during the holidays can sometimes be a pain in the ass and rather than drink yourself silly( although alcohol can help lessen the proverbial blows), there are a few tips and tricks on how to handle your family and friends when they say something out of pocket.
Keep It Classy.
I know it can be tempting to throw shade right back at your family and friends when they say something rude but by not responding or being petty you are showing them that you are the bigger person and that their shade holds no bearing? on your life.
Keep It Short and Sweet.
It's been a while since everyone has seen you so naturally they are going to want to know the tea on what's been going on in your life. The great thing about this is that you can pick and choose what you WANT or DON'T WANT your family and friends to know. And you can keep it as short and vague as you please.
It's hard for your family and friends to get on your nerves when you're busy doing something else. Offering to help prepare dinner or running errands last minute keeps you away from the drama and people out of your business.
Keep Your Distance.
This is a great tip if you have beef with a certain family or find that you are always getting into it with certain family and friends. During the holidays when alcohol is usually more prevalent, family and friends are more likely to say something rude and just be messy. Knowing that ahead of time can save you from a potential argument, especially if you know a family member can rub you the wrong way easily.
Keep It Positive.
There's nothing like heading to Christmas Dinner feeling good about yourself only to have your friends and family shit on everything you've been working your ass off to achieve. The bottom line is that someone is always going to have something to say no matter where you are in your life or what you are doing. In those moments where Grandma Gerry or Aunt Susan don't necessarily agree with your current job, significant other (or veto your choice of lipstick), responding positively, confidently and with assurance will remind them that at the end of the day this is your life, your decision and you are HAPPY. (Queue Smile). 🙂
Keep It Moving.
It's important to remember that the holidays are about spending time with your family, friends and loved ones,so take the good with the bad, enjoy your time there with the people you actually do get along with and remember it's only one day.